THEY LOVE ME KINKY

I am in a class with people from different parts of the world. Most of them are busy staring at my hair. Barely do I notice until it is break time. I can relate with their mystery since they all have the silky types. The only difference is the color. They love me kinky.

They must be very fascinated by my kinky hair. I try to engage in their thought from the questions they ask. The questions range from how I get to change my hairstyle so often to if they can touch it. How I get it to feel so soft.Someone is finally noticing my efforts. I feel like I am receiving an award of my life.

One of the ladies approach me during the break. She seems really interested in knowing. She wants to touch again. I am in very good moods so I give her a go ahead. She asks me why I do not relax to have it straight, of course very cautious not to offend me.  It is more than relaxed. I pamper it. She gives me a kinky grin but I assure her that I am not joking. I go ahead to analyse how I pamper. I do not expect her to understand but I insist anyway.

Thing is, before you go down on that knee to ask a naturalista to marry you, make sure to inquire on her hair maintenance. Don’t even go too far, just ask her how long she takes to wash her hair. If you can live with it, then you are ready. A good wash day takes me 24 hours. My classmate’s mouth is still agape. Back at home, it only took a few minutes but I figured out that the lack of attention might have been the cause of the retarded growth and continued roughness or rather the ‘stress’. She asks me what I really do with the hair for 24 hours. I start with terms like pre poo, deep conditioning and protein treatment. She is losing interest already.

I decide to share about my ‘ hair mayonnaise’ treatment to get her attention back. She bursts out in laughter. I am actually not making it up. My husband thought I was until he ordered it online for me. He was so fascinated when it came. I underestimated how ignorant they were about our hair. In all honesty, I have only received love for my hair since I moved to Europe. I can wear it more often without the feeling of it being untidy. I mean, do you remember back in High School when nothing was ever enough with our hair? If it was too straight, it must have been permed which was a crime. If it was too thick, kinky, it was untidy. Actually, the only people that were hair perfect were the short hair fellows.

There was this one time the discipline mistress, simba was her nickname, made me wash my super straight hot combed hair to prove that it was not permed. The roasted stench when water met the hot combed hair?! Later that evening, I wanted to go get a hair cut and she did not hesitate to give me a leave out. Well, I came back with my hair super straight. Let’s go back to my hair ten years later. My kinks make me different. You should see the stares when I walk in the park. The excitement. My sister in law told me I looked exotic. I love looking exotic. original. I am not a copy. Every once in a while I will wear the human hair wigs and hair extension just because I can. They also help protect my hair from adverse weather conditions like 30 degrees sun or -10.

I have the freedom to wear my own kinks. I have figured out that if I soak it in a mixture of olive and coconut oils for a day, it will soften it up when shampooing. The breakage is also minimal. My sink barely blocks nowadays. Furthermore, whenever I add some white vinegar to the shampoo it softens the hard water which thereafter makes my hair more shiny and softer. Try it out. I play around with natural products as well. For this particular style https://nancynjoka.com/bantu-knots-on-twist-outs/ I used the super silk TRESemmé conditioner, the Cantu repair leave-in conditioner and the cantu curling cream.  I rinse off the super silk and the other creams are left to moisturize the hair.

This style lasts on for about four days which is enough for me. When loosening the twists, I use pure castor oil for my edges and a argan oil for shiny curls. Sometimes however, I use virgin coconut oil.  Contrary to the once a month wash I used to have back at home, I pamper it once a week. I also avoid over manipulation. Further the pulled off braids are so darn expensive here. I do them once a year. My hair makes me stand out from the majority here.

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